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What follows is the Prologue and Chapter One of the Pulitzer Prize nominated
book,
"How to Quit Smoking Without
Willpower or Struggle"
by Mark Whalen
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I will not bore you with all
the reasons that smoking cigarettes, or using tobacco in any form, is a
self-destructive, suicidal behavior. The simple fact that you are reading this
means that you already know this and are either hooked and now know you must
to release yourself from the deadly grip, or you have a loved one who needs
this information.
Either way, you must know by
now that roughly eight times as many Americans die from tobacco related
disease each and every year as did in all America's eleven years involvement
in Viet Nam combined; twenty times the number of deaths caused by
drunken drivers in America each year; and about twenty-five times
the number of American deaths by AIDS. (343,000 total deaths by AIDS as of
7/1/96 vs. approx. 8,000,000 deaths by tobacco during the same time period,
according to the US Dept. of Health, Center for Disease Control. The deaths by
tobacco do not count deaths by tobacco related fires, nor heart, blood, and
lung disease deaths exacerbated by tobacco use, but not attributed to it on
the death certificates.)
But knowing this has not
caused more than a minor movement away from use of the deadly plant by the
general public at large. In fact, many tens of thousands of children all over
the world are, as this is being written, smoking their first cigarette, the
first of perhaps hundreds of thousands to come over their shortened and
diminished lifetimes.
This book does not dwell upon
the evils of smoking, nor how to stop the general promotion and legal sale of
the most lethal drug (far more deadly than heroin or cocaine) in the world.
What it focuses upon is the way out, the way to disassociate oneself from the
need for, and attraction to, tobacco. In fact, the method for behavior
modification found here is not exclusive to tobacco, but can be used for the
cessation of virtually any habit or addiction in any form.
The problem is not in the
substance, but in the "habit" of using it. For without the habit, the
addiction, tobacco has no power of its own. It is as harmless and
insignificant as any simple garden variety weed. It is the internal
subconscious perception we hold about the drug that makes it so dangerous.
What is illustrated herein is a method by which one may change that perception
permanently, without "fighting the urge" or going "cold turkey".
Smoking is a habit. Habits
are created by repetitious behavior, and are built, assembled if you will,
over a period of time. If we were computers, and I strongly believe that we
are indeed the most sophisticated computers conceivable, then our habits would
be called our "programs". Removing a program from a computer is a simple
mechanical process.
Removing a habit from a human
being is not nearly as simple, but is still a mechanical process. Each
requires a course of steps which, taken one at a time in sequence, with care
and commitment, will achieve the desired result. But when I say commitment, I
do not mean commitment to resistance to the habit, nor any fanatical ordeal
wherein you are required to perform any dynamic or difficult behaviors.
Actually, the process is not
nearly as arduous as installing the habit (learning to smoke). When one learns
to smoke, one must overcome the body's natural resistance to breathing a toxic
substance, with only the ardent desire to overcome the body's own safeguards
to keep the process going. However, reversing the habit, although perhaps a
bit more complex, moves one toward the body and its needs, not away from it.
Therefore ending the habit will feel more natural and is actually easier, and
far less painful, than starting it.
So the first place to start
is with the simple, direct question: Do you truly want to quit
smoking? The next question must be: Are you ready to begin to do it now?
If the answers to both these questions is yes, then read on, and just do what
the book tells you to do.
It will work.
I know because I used this
method to release myself from sixteen years of addiction to tobacco, and no
longer have any desire for cigarettes. I tried "willpower" three times before
designing this system. Each time lasted from only days to about a week. Each
time I discovered that I could not "break" the habit simply by denying it. By
just telling myself no, when my body and mind were craving, was ridiculous.
Even when I succeeded in not
doing the behavior, it was still occupying a good deal of my conscious
thoughts. I found myself short-tempered, biting my nails, and was quasi-hungry
all the time. But once I realized that I must work with my body and
brain, not against them, I knew I was moving in the right direction.
If you desire to end your
enslavement to a product you no longer wish to purchase, use, or allow to
diminish the quality of your life, then use this little book as the key to
your doorway out. The method does work. It will work for anyone
who sincerely wants to use it. All that is needed is your attention.
Although I have stated that
you can quit without willpower, you must, of course, be prepared to do the
simple behaviors of the process, which do not include resisting smoking.
In fact, you are encouraged to smoke each and every time you want to.
This system is not designed to get you to stop smoking, but to stop
wanting to.
Once you no longer have any
desire to smoke, you will never feel the need to "learn" the habit again.
Being around others who are smoking will not cause you to crave a cigarette.
Also, you won't be able to just pick up a cigarette and return to the old
habit. There will be no residual habit left in you. You will be as if
you never were a smoker unless, of course, you have already done permanent
damage. But even then, permanent scars tend to shrink and fade over time.
Eventually your full
breathing capacity and your natural ability to fully taste food will return.
You will not have an unnatural craving for food, nor any other substitute. You
will find that you sleep better, and awake much easier, needing far less time
in bed to achieve the rest you need. Your teeth will be cleaner, and your
breath and body will smell much better, needing less deodorant.
Once you have stopped
ingesting small, steady doses of the sixteen(!) toxic (literally
poisonous, deadly,) chemicals found in the smoke of cigarettes up to
several hundred times a day, (each puff being a dose), you will find the
general quality of your life greatly improved!
And for me, the sense of
pride and accomplishment was tremendous. My self-respect grew immeasurably
once I was certain I had defeated the "evil weed" once and for all time. I did
it, and you can too. Just take the simple steps found here, and your
result will be the same as mine. I don't smoke, and I have no desire to. I
simply feel sorry for those who don't want to use tobacco, but still feel
compelled to anyway.
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How Much?
The first step toward
dismantling your habit, for that's exactly what we're going to do, is to get a
good look at it. Always, when someone asks me for help to stop smoking, the
first thing I do is ask them how much they smoke. The answer almost invariably
is, "Oh, a pack to a pack and a half a day." This is a typical encapsulated
description of a habit.
A pack is a unit of
one. (A habit is a series of integrated, interdependent behaviors,
performed in sequence, thought of as a unit of one, such as "driving" or
"golfing". Both these habitual behaviors require dozens of individual
behaviors.) So this person is telling me that they smoke about one to one and
a half units a day, knowing that I will understand that they are talking about
twenty to thirty cigarettes a day.
But what they don't
consciously get is that I am understanding that they are smoking about ten
hits per cigarette, and so therefore to my mind, they are telling me that they
are smoking two to three hundred times a day. Each and every
time you place a cigarette between your lips and draw smoke into your lungs,
that is an individual act of smoking.
This first step in the
process is a simple one, and will tell you immediately if you are lying to
yourself about whether or not you are truly ready to stop smoking now. If you
are willing to just look at your habit, then you are likely ready to first
alter, then discard it. But you must know precisely what it is you are
directing your subconscious to do. The details are important.
Step One is to count your
cigarettes. The way this first step is performed is this. Get a short pencil,
no longer than one of your cigarettes. Also get a business card with a clean
back. Any piece of paper will do, but it should be at least as stiff as a
regular business card, and slightly smaller than the size of the pack.
Then, when you first open
your next pack and remove that first cigarette, place a mark on the back of
the card, next to a letter representing the day of the week. Then slide the
card between the plastic and the pack, and put the pencil into the spot where
the cigarette was. Then, each time you have another cigarette, take the card
out, pencil a mark on it, and just put it back.
At the end of a full seven
day week, you will know exactly what your habit has been, and is
likely to be in the future, if you don't do something about it now!
However, simply putting this
much attention on the habit can tend to make it shrink all by itself.
Historically, I've noticed that many of those "pack a day" smokers start their
week smoking fifteen to twenty-five a day. But by the end of the week, that
seems in many cases to drop off to six to ten.
They report that they're
still smoking all they want, but they started dropping off the few extras that
they'd rather pass on than count. Amazing. I don't say this will definitely
happen to you, and if it doesn't, that has no bearing upon how long the
process will be.
First, it will take as
long as it takes, period! There is no timetable upon this work. A
time-table puts pressure on you, and this is not a pressure-type process.
Second, it will not
be difficult. The only seriously hard part of quitting smoking is
resisting the urge to have a cigarette. You will never be required to
do this. You will be able to smoke each and every time you are certain you
want to. In fact, you are encouraged to smoke each cigarette you want.
It is counter-productive to the method to resist the habit. This shall be a
gentle, organic process of letting go. Not a violent overthrow.
So begin Week One by counting
your habit, and finding out just how many cigarettes you are smoking. It is
said that the wise man knows well his enemy. This is an enemy we are going to
kill with kindness. But that first step is to know him.
Don't bother to read on now,
until you can answer this question precisely: Exactly how many
cigarettes did you smoke in the last seven days? And do not
just remember when you bought the last carton and subtract what you have left.
That would be an estimate. You need an exact figure.
Also, the counting does more
for your brain than just giving you the number. This first step must not
be short-cutted! You must, for this process to work well, count
each one separately as they are smoked and record them. Then move on to
Chapter Two.
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NOTE: If it is too much of a
struggle to get yourself to count how many cigarettes you smoke for seven days
in a row, please don't bother to read on.
IF YOU CAN'T EVEN LOOK AT
YOUR HABIT,
YOU'RE NOT TRULY READY TO QUIT IT YET.
But please pass this book on to
someone else who may need it and be better able to use it. Be sure to get
it back when you really are ready!
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Cigarette smoking remains
by far the largest single
preventable cause of premature death in the world! |
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